Tuesday, December 15, 2009

I was a really good Mom before I had kids.


Has anyone read this book?  When I saw it in Meijer a few years ago, I knew I had to have it, just because of the title.  Why?  Because it’s so hysterically true.

How many of us when we were little would fill in the blank with “Mom”, when  asked what we wanted to be when we grew up?  I was definitely that little girl.  I played with Cabbage Patch kids until at least 6th grade.  Ok, shut up haters, I lived in the country and there wasn’t a lot to do!

I got pregnant with Alivia 2 months after Shawn and I were married.  Even though I was sick the whole time, and dead tired from working 12.5 hour shifts, I couldn’t have been more excited.  I had dreams of pushing a stroller through the park, going to play groups, and selling Girl Scout cookies (I’m starting to regret that one!)   

Alivia was born on my 24th birthday.  I had preeclampsia, and went through a two day long induction.  The morning after she was born I started bleeding, a lot.  By the end of that day my entire stomach was actually bruised from a nurse wrenching on my stomach for over an hour to get my uterus to clamp down.

That night I remember saying to my Mom, “This just isn’t what I expected.  I didn’t sign up for this.”  Truer words have never been spoken. 

I read quite a few blogs and some of my favorite ones are from other Moms who are brutally honest (possibly like yours truly!).  The ones who admit to taking Xanax before going to see Santa, or who would trade their husband’s for a housekeeper.

You will never come to this blog and find Suzy Homemaker, but you’ll probably never find Peg Bundy either. 

I am me. 

Yes, I am sarcastic.  Yes, I drink.  Yes, I drop the occasional F-Bomb.

But, I also make homemade Christmas ornaments for my girl’s classmates, take my kids to picnics at Sonic when it’s 12 degrees out, and spend my lunch break driving 40 minutes round trip to watch a 15 minute preschool Christmas Program.

Nobody is a perfect mother.  Not even you.  So, instead why not try to embrace the imperfections, lose the maternal guilt, and even enjoy some laughs along the way? 


Leah said...

I didn't know that was a book... I was LOL when I read the title of your post... so typical you. You are always hilarious and I love it.

Before I had kids, I hate kids. I don't like to be a mom. When I had my boys, I changed my perspective. I'm glad I chose to be a mom. The thing is it is easier to be a mom here in my part of the planet. We have household helpers to assist me in doing the chores so my time was devoted to raising my boys.

I had my ups and downs, you know the typical woes of motherhood. But I get by with a lot of help from my angels (that's what I call my helpers).

Notes From the Grove said...

I know I have the same visions as you did--of being the perfect mom. And I know I will not be. But I'll still hold onto my dream until those little buggers smash it to pieces, lol.

debra said...

Great post! I have wanted to read that book but just haven't gotten to it. Too busy being a mom, I guess. :)

Swapna Raghu Sanand said...

Now I really want to get my hands on the book!

Leah said...

P.S. I have a blog give-away. Hope you can check it out. Big hugs!

Corrie and Phil said...

I thought that we got pregnant rather quickly after getting married (4 months), so that part of your post (2 months) made me smile all the more.

You're a great mother, and a terrific aerobics instructor on top of all of that. Ha!

Laura and Ryan said...

You just gotta take it all in and enjoy it...you are so right!

Blair said...

I had no clue this was a book. I need to give this to my sister, she is such a great mom but beats herself up everyday trying to be the "perfect" stay at home mom!
Thanks for sharing!!!


Jen said...

Great post! Well said!

Just so you know from reading your blog and becoming your friend, I think you are a great mom!

Amy said...

I really needed to hear this today!

You, sweetheart, are welcome to drink wine with me anytime!

Ange Jackson said...

I invite you to also read "Confessions of a Slacker Mom." It is my life as a parent written by some other parent trying to pawn my life off as hers... or so it seems.

I would just like to share that my verification word is "whine," which is perfect because that is all I can hear out of my three boys right now as they are playing some game in the dining room.